Recently I’ve been working with a few clients that want to better understand their issues around money. Some of these clients have significant incomes, and yet they still find themselves just getting by.
The more money they make, the more their expenses seem to increase… they keep working more and more so they can get ahead… but the bills always seem to catch up to them. So what’s going on?
So much of how we behave is based on the subconscious messages and beliefs that we take on; often in our childhoods. When I am working with clients I always ask about the messages that they grew up with around money, wealth, and success.
Part of the craft of hypnotherapy is deepening our understanding of how the subconscious mind processes language; and how it differs from conscious processing.
Often times a saying has an obvious one-sided perspective to the conscious mind; but the subconscious mind takes sayings - and particularly metaphor and interprets it, and applies it globally - without discrimination.
Many clients that struggle with having enough money - in spite of earning large amounts of money; don’t come from wealthy families. Over and over again, I hear stories of being raised in hardship, of parents living paycheck to paycheck - and almost every time I am conducting an interview with such a client, the same metaphor makes an appearance. It’s a variation of “we were always struggling to make ends meet”.
“We were always struggling to make ends meet!”
When we aren’t making enough money to pay for all of our expenses, we are always working to meet the demand… to make enough to get though the next day, week, month, or year.
“Making ends meet” as a saying makes sense, we want one end (income) to meet the other end (expenses). In the conscious mind this is a one way image, and it’s always about increasing our income.
The subconscious mind is not linear. The subconscious mind is powerfully motivated by images and metaphor, and the phrase “making ends meet”, is both!
The subconscious views the imperative belief “we’ve got to make ends meet” globally. For the subconscious mind, it becomes a matter of survival. No matter what, the one end (income) has to “meet” (equal) the other end (expenses).
Therefore, as a person educates themselves, and works with focus to increase their income, the subconscious mind works diligently in the background to ensure that the imperative is sustained and maintained.
If your income increases, the only possible way that you can continue to “make ends meet” is to simultaneously increase your expenses. It will happen naturally and effortlessly, because your subconscious mind has taken that formula in as a crucial element of your survival.
You can make as much money as you can imagine; but as long as that subconscious belief is rooted there, you can bet there will be nothing left over at the end of the day. Consciously, you may be frustrated - but your subconscious mind is congratulating itself on a job well done!
Hypnotherapy acts as a communication bridge between the conscious mind and the subconscious mind, and it allows my clients to update messages that may have applied at one point in their lives, but are no longer relevant - or worse, are obstructive or destructive - in their lives now.
The truth is that “making ends meet” is never really the goal. Even when you’re struggling, you want your resources to exceed - far exceed - the demands of your life. I know it, and your conscious mind knows it, but your subconscious mind is unquestioningly running an old program. It’s doing what it was conditioned to do; and until you update it, and give it a new task - it will continue to “make ends meet” no matter how hard you work, or how much you make.
Let’s explore updating the old software using Hypnotherapy. Book your free consultation online!