Fear, Shame, and Money

Fear, Shame, and Money

It’s amazing how well people can survive, even when they are entirely avoiding conversations about money. A person can find careers that will help them justify your avoidance - in paths like Spirituality, Religion, Social Services, and Arts. A person can build entire communities with other people that carry the same kind of shame and self-doubt and feel totally justified in doing so… and I did… all of it… really well!

It’s entirely possible to survive with a maladaptive belief – but it is nearly impossible to thrive.

Forget The Answers, Do You Have The Right Questions? - Niki Martin

Forget The Answers, Do You Have The Right Questions? - Niki Martin

How do we raise our children to grow up feeling competent and capable?

I think the answer lies somewhere in asking questions, curious and specific questions that give us more information about our children’s experience of the world around them. It’s all too easy, as a parent, to think we need to have all the answers. May I suggest you forget the answers and ask lots of questions?

Victoria, BC - NLP Practitioner Certification with Harry Nichols, NLP Master Trainer and founder of Thought Models*

Victoria, BC - NLP Practitioner Certification with Harry Nichols, NLP Master Trainer and founder of Thought Models* 

Sponsored by CACHE (Canadian Association of Counselling Hypnotherapists and Educators)

General Public: 

Course Fee: $2,550    

10% Early Registration Discount (before July 15): -$255

Total for Early Registration: $2,295


CACHE Members: 

Course Fee: $2,250    

Early Registration Discount (before July 15): -$253

Total for Early Registration: $1,997


License fee of $200USD with Society of NLP is included in course fees.


Payment plans are available, please contact for details


Dates: 9 full days - September 5-8 (4 days) and October 9-13 (5 days), 2019

Training Times: 8:30am-5:30pm

Location: Horizon Centre Classroom 228-1175 Cook Street Victoria, BC V8V 4A1


Harry Nichols has over 25 years of NLP experience and over 20 years of teaching at the Master Practitioner level, he has received the highest designation for a trainer, from Dr Richard Bandler, as A Master Trainer of NLP with the Society of NLP.


Training with a Master Trainer ensures you receive optimal focus in NLP throughout. We are proud to say we offer one of the best “trainers to student” ratios – ensuring smaller classroom sizes so each student has personal time to interact with the trainer - Harry Nichols.


Become a Licensed Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming now.

NLP has been described as the technology of the mind, or the science of achievement, and or the study of success. It is so much more, even sometimes called the “new” science of achievement. It’s been around for over 40 years and continues to evolve as we move into the rapidly changing landscape of life in these times.


Neuro-Linguistic Programming is the study of success and how to utilize effective behaviours and thinking styles of successful people in all walks of life, business, education, sales, therapy, sport, and personal development. You will learn the nature of unconscious communication patterns and how to utilize them for personal growth and professional development.


Who is NLP for?

If you’re a coach, a therapist, counsellor, mentor, salesperson, teacher, parent, business professional or all-around communicator – there is no better skill to possess. It’s like getting the manual for how to run your brain - and in doing so, learning how all humans process information.


·      As a leader, you can demonstrate and implement powerful positive changes for yourself and others.

·      If you are a teacher, better communications skills will improve the results for your students.

·      If you are a business professional or owner - communicating better with your staff will improve your results.

·      Self-employed? NLP will help you create powerful strategies, avoid the pitfalls of negative thinking, increase productivity and develop a clear plan for your business.

·      As a Human Resources Manager, you now learn the skills of great communicators.

·      As a medical provider, communicating with your patients in ways that will convey clearly the details you want them to follow.

·      As parents, it’s a skill you will use for your kids now and through the rest of your life with them.

Whether you want to learn more self-control, master fears, develop greater motivation, better communication skills, enhanced ability to build relationships, influence others – or help others do the same, this training course will give you the skills you need to achieve it.

What you will learn:

During this course, participants are taught the following elements of NLP and are then shown how to combine these elements to enable them to apply them with skill and elegance.  The course culminates in real-life applications of NLP Skills in helping others to overcome fears and phobias, and learning greater confidence.

At the end of this course, you will know how to work with and utilize the following elements of NLP, which will enable you to get the best from people in HR, managerial, therapeutic and business contexts.

The Programme:

·      The NLP presuppositions: Useful beliefs for the NLP Practitioner

·      Well-formed outcomes:  A method to identify and pursue well-formed and congruent outcomes

·      Rapport: How to bond with anyone in minutes

·      Sensory acuity: How to read others by observing minute sensory shifts

·      Metaphor: Use metaphor and deliver powerful messages to the unconscious mind.

·      Representation systems: How people build their internal maps

·      Eye patterns: How to read the representations people are accessing moment to moment

·      Submodalities: Finer distinctions, which create meaning from our internal maps

·      Swish Patterns: Change habits and states and create new directions

·      Sub-modality belief changes: Use sub-modalities to change limiting beliefs

·      Strategies: Internal processes that drive complex behaviours. How different people make decisions, get motivated and perform any behaviour.

·      Modelling strategies: Install new powerful strategies for any new behaviour an individual or organization wants to adopt

·      Tote model: Test, Operate, Test, Exit, a model of efficiency in testing outcomes

·      Anchoring: How we are programmed by external and internal stimuli

·      Linguistic presuppositions: Learn to influence using elegant language structures. Be able to read people’s internal maps based on the presuppositions in their language

·      Milton Model: Maintain rapport and elegantly influence by using hypnotic language patterns

·      Meta Model: Get to the heart of distortions, generalizations, and deletions in language

·      Agreement frame: Maintain agreement even when you have the opposing perspective

·      Reframing: elegantly create new meanings for problems and objections

·      Six Step reframe: Use unconscious signals for healing and creating new choices

·      Working with Phobias: A powerful way to shift old patterns that simply no longer serve.

Harry offers follow-up private sessions with students to review the material a few weeks later, to ensure they have mastered the basics.

Contact: Harry Nichols or Kathy Welter or call: (604)421-1722

In Victoria: CACHE Representative Eshu Martin or call: (250)642-7936


* Thought Models is a recognized training centre for the ‘Society of NLP’. Harry Nichols is a globally recognized Master Trainer of Neuro-Linguistic Programming. The Society of NLP is the only NLP licensing body in the world endorsed by the Co-Creator of NLP; Dr. Richard Bandler. All NLP certification programs through Thought Models are in alignment with the requirements of the Society.  The NLP Practitioner and/or NLP Master Practitioner will qualify you as a member of the Society of NLP. Your NLP certificates are signed by the Co-creator of NLP; Dr. Richard Bandler and you will have the authorization to utilize and carry the globally recognized NLP Society Seals on your web pages, business cards, FaceBook pages and any other marketing materials you use.


What are we going to do now? - Niki Martin

As parents (especially of young children), we’re often given multiple opportunities to react to something unexpected, even undesirable and, quite often, messy. Lipstick being used like a marker, flour being sprinkled like snow, and the list goes on and on….

The first words out of your mouth and the initial look on your face is crucial to the beliefs being built in your child’s subconscious. Wouldn’t it be useful to have a comment at the ready that is thoughtful and empowering? Wouldn’t it be useful to buy yourself a quick minute to regain a sense of calm without laying guilt or shame or worry on your child?

I wonder what might happen if your immediate response was: What are we going to do now? It seems like an innocent enough question BUT , it’s a question (not an exclamation) and questions open doors and allow for thought and problem solving. This questions also implies that you are going to do something, that you are capable of handling this situation and that you have the skills to fix it and get yourself back on track. It’s very different from “Oh my God!” accompanied by the look of exhaustion and disappointment. It’s very different from “Look at the mess you made!” accompanied by the look of disapproval and frustration. Our subconscious takes in everything and a child will make meaning from that initial split second reaction from a parent. What if you were prepared? What if by asking this question you also felt capable and like you could get the day back on track? And I wonder what responses you might get from your child after you ask this question. Would they say I’m sorry? Would they say they need to clean it up? Would they ask you to join in the fun of whatever it is they are doing?

There’s some simple and elegant power in this question and I wonder, What are you going to do now?



Scientific discoveries, inventions, learning to walk and talk, gaining self awareness, taking up a new hobby, deepening a relationship, making a new friend -  all have seeds in curiosity. Being curious is fundamental to being human and yet, as we age, I feel that we learn (in one way or another) how to ignore our curious nature and we begin accepting the status quo. How would your life change if you approached your parenting or your marriage or your friendships or your occupation with more curiosity?

The Problem With Making Ends Meet - Eshu Martin

Recently I’ve been working with a few clients that want to better understand their issues around money. Some of these clients have significant incomes, and yet they still find themselves just getting by.

The more money they make, the more their expenses seem to increase… they keep working more and more so they can get ahead… but the bills always seem to catch up to them. So what’s going on?

So much of how we behave is based on the subconscious messages and beliefs that we take on; often in our childhoods. When I am working with clients I always ask about the messages that they grew up with around money, wealth, and success.

Part of the craft of hypnotherapy is deepening our understanding of how the subconscious mind processes language; and how it differs from conscious processing.

Often times a saying has an obvious one-sided perspective to the conscious mind; but the subconscious mind takes sayings - and particularly metaphor and interprets it, and applies it globally - without discrimination.

Many clients that struggle with having enough money - in spite of earning large amounts of money; don’t come from wealthy families. Over and over again, I hear stories of being raised in hardship, of parents living paycheck to paycheck - and almost every time I am conducting an interview with such a client, the same metaphor makes an appearance. It’s a variation of “we were always struggling to make ends meet”.

We were always struggling to make ends meet!

When we aren’t making enough money to pay for all of our expenses, we are always working to meet the demand… to make enough to get though the next day, week, month, or year.

“Making ends meet” as a saying makes sense, we want one end (income) to meet the other end (expenses). In the conscious mind this is a one way image, and it’s always about increasing our income.

The subconscious mind is not linear. The subconscious mind is powerfully motivated by images and metaphor, and the phrase “making ends meet”, is both!

The subconscious views the imperative belief “we’ve got to make ends meet” globally. For the subconscious mind, it becomes a matter of survival. No matter what, the one end (income) has to “meet” (equal) the other end (expenses).

Therefore, as a person educates themselves, and works with focus to increase their income, the subconscious mind works diligently in the background to ensure that the imperative is sustained and maintained.

If your income increases, the only possible way that you can continue to “make ends meet” is to simultaneously increase your expenses. It will happen naturally and effortlessly, because your subconscious mind has taken that formula in as a crucial element of your survival.

You can make as much money as you can imagine; but as long as that subconscious belief is rooted there, you can bet there will be nothing left over at the end of the day. Consciously, you may be frustrated - but your subconscious mind is congratulating itself on a job well done!

Hypnotherapy acts as a communication bridge between the conscious mind and the subconscious mind, and it allows my clients to update messages that may have applied at one point in their lives, but are no longer relevant - or worse, are obstructive or destructive - in their lives now.

The truth is that “making ends meet” is never really the goal. Even when you’re struggling, you want your resources to exceed - far exceed - the demands of your life. I know it, and your conscious mind knows it, but your subconscious mind is unquestioningly running an old program. It’s doing what it was conditioned to do; and until you update it, and give it a new task - it will continue to “make ends meet” no matter how hard you work, or how much you make.

Let’s explore updating the old software using Hypnotherapy. Book your free consultation online!

Now Is The Later You Were Talking About Yesterday - Eshu Martin

All of us, from time to time, need to dissociate from the thoughts, feelings, and responses that are arising in the present moment, just so that we can survive - get through what we are experiencing.

When someone at work unknowingly hits one of our buttons, we can’t just fly off the handle. When we are dealing with grief and loss, and the waiter, or the cab driver, or a friend says something that threatens to push us over the edge; an amazing human capability is to step back from our experience - to disassociate from it.

It’s like we say to ourselves, “I can’t deal with this now, it isn’t safe - I’ll have to deal with this later.”

Unfortunately, for the vast majority of us, “later” never really arrives. If we manage to put off negative emotion - feelings like grief, anger, shame - or sometimes even positive emotions like love or desire; we are unlikely to voluntarily or willingly call them back up to feel them and process them.

So where do those feelings go?

Well, they don’t just disappear or evaporate… they are stored in the subconscious mind. Where they wait.

In my experience these “later” emotions tend to congregate in the shadows of the subconscious mind waiting for an opportunity to be felt. Waiting for a trigger that will open the door and allow them to flow freely into the present.

This is what happens when something small and irritating happens, and suddenly you find yourself raging at the barista; or when what should be a small disappointment leads to a total meltdown.

When old and dissociated emotion continues to build, it seeks association. Our feelings begin to influence our perception of life, relationship and the world around us. When we are full of dissociated grief, we look out and see a world full of sadness, events that are depressing, and a future that is bleak. It isn’t a reflection of reality - it is a projection of what we are carrying inside of us. The whole world becomes a Rorschach ink blot.

Your subconscious mind is in incredible resource, and it is there to protect you and keep you safe. When the situation feels dangerous or when you feel it wouldn’t be good to fall apart right now, the conscious mind makes a deal with the subconscious - “Let’s not deal with this now, let’s deal with this later, when it’s more safe.” to which the subconscious replies, “Okay, I can hold this, for now.”

But your conscious mind is always willing to put it off. The subconscious mind is nobody’s fool though, and if you don’t honour the agreement to address what is stored in the subconscious, it begins to collect, and it begins to seep - into your dreams, into your background thoughts, and even into your body manifesting as psychosomatic symptoms (sleep disruptions, phantom pains, etc., etc.).

Hypnotherapy provides a safe and supportive environment to address and resolve all of those feelings and experiences that you’ve put off to an ambiguous “later”. Your subconscious mind won’t wait forever.

Now really is the later you were talking about yesterday.

Book your free consultation today.

High Performance Hypnotherapy - Eshu Martin

Those who know me, know that I’m involved in the local theatre scene (actually just about to open in Goodnight Mr. Tom at Langham Court Theatre, get tickets here :))

Often when my fellow players learn that I’m a Hypnotherapist, I’m asked if hypnotherapy can help with performance issues. Many performers run into obstacles when performing, or in their training, that create road blocks to accessing the amazing experiences that these wonderfully talented people want in their lives.

Sometimes it can be hard to believe that the person that you just saw totally nail a solo gets so anxious before performing that they vomit; but it’s often true; and who wants that?!

I work with several actors, singers, and voice coaching clients to transcend obstacles in vocal development - “I can hit this in my car, and in the shower… but in my lesson, or on the stage I tighten up!”

As we get older, it can be more difficult to commit lines to memory, and even when we do, accessing those memorized lines when we need them… in front of an audience or peers can be a challenge. Through hypnotherapy, you can open up the vast resources of the subconscious mind, and deliver the goods!

“All the world’s a stage, And all the men and women merely players;”
— William Shakespeare - As You Like it Act II, Scene VII

Performance isn’t just for actors though - as Shakespeare so rightly wrote, “All the world’s a stage, And all the men and women merely players”; whether it’s presenting in front of the board, or speaking to clients, or even having a satisfying sexual relationship - the pressure to successfully meet or exceed the expectations of those we are in relationship can bring with it fear, anxiety, nausea, memory loss (to name just a few symptoms I’ve seen), and can trigger all sorts of subconscious defensive responses.

For me, it’s a delight to work with people to improve their performance - whether it’s on the stage, in the boardroom, or in the bedroom. Supporting people through hypnotherapy in letting go of the things that are blocking their progress, or weighing them down brings a deep sense of joy to my life. Watching people who have been tethered to the ground by subconscious limitation flying higher than ever before - that’s what gets me out of bed in the morning.

If you are tired of running into the same old roadblocks… book a free 90 minute consultation, and let’s get started with your transformation!

Can Hypnotherapy Help With...? - Eshu Martin

A big part of how I spend my time is educating people about the uses and function of hypnotherapy. Every day people ask me, “can hypnotherapy help with…?”, and then share whatever they or the people they care about are struggling with. My answer is almost always, “Yes!”

The reason is that hypnotherapy works with the deepest capacities of the human mind. To expand on my affirmative response, I’ll often ask in reply, “do you feel like your mind is involved in your experience at all?” Of course it is! It’s virtually impossible for it not to be. It is through our mind that we experience everything in our lives, and the mind interprets everything based on previous experience, and a subjective standpoint.

“Well, how can hypnosis help something simply biological like a broken leg?!” It’s true that I can’t magically fuse bones instantly with hypnosis; but a traumatic injury like a broken leg, or even a terminal cancer diagnosis create innumerable peripheral issues - pain, fear, sleep disturbance, phobia, anxiety, depression, relationship issues, work stress… all of which take place deep in our minds - in how we perceive and interpret our situation.

When we take a step back and look at something - even something as “biological” as a broken leg, we can see that only a tiny portion of the experience is the fact of a broken bone. We can also see that if all of the other issues that our minds create around that experience are addressed and relieved, our experience is vastly improved. Our biological systems are less taxed by our mental/emotional load, and we do in fact, heal much more quickly.

So if you find yourself wondering, “Can hypnotherapy help with…?” My answer is likely “YES!”

Book a free consultation today, and let’s look at the more important matter of how hypnotherapy can help you.