Nothing burns my biscuits more than when a new client comes for a consultation and I am informed that they have been told by a previous therapist/counsellor/practitioner that they are “resistant”, or “beyond help”, or that they “don’t really want to get better”.
If you have gone for help to a so called “professional” and they have said any variation of this to you, I want you to know this… you are not the problem. You are not broken. Their failure to help you is their failure - not yours.
Many professionals have a hard time being able to admit to themselves - let alone their clients - that they don’t have the knowledge, the skills, or the patience to address their client’s needs.
Rather than stepping back, accepting their responsibility and digging in, or consulting with peers, or learning and training, or when necessary referring; they saddle a client that has come for help with additional guilt, shame, and a totally false belief that they can’t be helped.
A “professional” that does this creates more suffering in the client, and does a tremendous disservice to their professional colleagues.
If you feel like you’ve tried everything, if your therapist told you that you were “beyond help”, if you are starting feel like you are somehow broken, please come and see me. You aren’t broken.
Sometimes in business we are asked to define our “niche”, and I often struggle to do that because I enjoy every aspect of my diverse work – but if I had to, I would say that this is my niche – to help the so called “beyond help”.
I suppose I’ve always been inspired by Sherlock Holmes, and aspire to be the only unofficial consulting hypnotherapist…
“That is why I have chosen my own particular profession,—or rather created it, for I am the only one in the world."
"The only unofficial detective?" I said, raising my eyebrows.
"The only unofficial consulting detective," he answered. "I am the last and highest court of appeal in detection. When Gregson or Lestrade or Athelney Jones are out of their depths—which, by the way, is their normal state—the matter is laid before me. I examine the data, as an expert, and pronounce a specialist's opinion.”
– Sherlock Holmes, The Sign of Four