Recently I had a conversation with a client about the fear of failure. So many of us worry about not getting it right, being judged, or looking foolish if we try something and fail- even if it is our first time trying.
Somewhere in our lives, our childhood, or our society, we’ve picked up the message, and created a belief that failure is bad... unpleasant... a thing to be avoided at all costs!
For many of us, it's such a concern, that we won't even bother, because it is more comfortable not to try... than it is to fail.
The thing is - it's okay to try... and to fail. In fact, it is a crucial part of learning. Failing, it turns out, is a huge ingredient of success.
I grew up through the 80s and 90s in Canada; and one of the biggest names... okay the biggest name in Hockey EVER is Wayne Gretzky.
They don't call him "The Great One" for nothing. Gretzky scored an unprecedented 894 career goals; more than anyone has ever scored... but what you don't often see reported is that he took 5,088 shots on net.
“You miss 100 percent of the shots you never take.”
This means that he missed (failed) 4,194 times to put the puck in the net.
He failed more than 4 out of 5 times.
A success rate of 17.6% doesn't seem like such a "great" record; but here's the thing... nobody talks about the shots Gretzky missed. We don’t refer to Wayne Gretzky as the "guy who missed more than anyone in hockey history", even though that may also be true*.
Wayne Gretzky was utterly willing to try... and to fail; and because he was so willing, we remember him as "The Great One".
So what is your goal? Are there shots that you aren’t taking because you are afraid that you will miss?
Hypnotherapy can help you to release your fear and worry so that you can take the shot; and become “The Great One” in you own life, relationship, and career.
*actually Gretzky is 6th in missed shots.