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Parenting

Forget The Answers, Do You Have The Right Questions? - Niki Martin

Forget The Answers, Do You Have The Right Questions? - Niki Martin

How do we raise our children to grow up feeling competent and capable?

I think the answer lies somewhere in asking questions, curious and specific questions that give us more information about our children’s experience of the world around them. It’s all too easy, as a parent, to think we need to have all the answers. May I suggest you forget the answers and ask lots of questions?

What are we going to do now? - Niki Martin

What are we going to do now? - Niki Martin

As parents (especially of young children), we’re often given multiple opportunities to react to something unexpected, even undesirable and, quite often, messy. Lipstick being used like a marker, flour being sprinkled like snow, and the list goes on and on….

The first words out of your mouth and the initial look on your face is crucial to the beliefs being built in your child’s subconscious. Wouldn’t it be useful to have a comment at the ready that is thoughtful and empowering? Wouldn’t it be useful to buy yourself a quick minute to regain a sense of calm without laying guilt or shame or worry on your child?

BE CURIOUS. ASK QUESTIONS. ACCEPT THE ANSWERS. - Niki Martin

BE CURIOUS. ASK QUESTIONS. ACCEPT THE ANSWERS. - Niki Martin

Scientific discoveries, inventions, learning to walk and talk, gaining self awareness, taking up a new hobby, deepening a relationship, making a new friend -  all have seeds in curiosity. Being curious is fundamental to being human and yet, as we age, I feel that we learn (in one way or another) how to ignore our curious nature and we begin accepting the status quo. How would your life change if you approached your parenting or your marriage or your friendships or your occupation with more curiosity?