It is an option for me to do a whole bunch of stuff today with groups and social connections, and even to just keep on with my own work.

But it's Father's Day.

The single biggest kind of mistake I've made (too many times) in being a father, were the times I chose to "do" other things - because I didn't feel that just showing up as a loving and present man in the lives of of my kids - was of any value at all.

I felt like my only value was the money I made, so that there was food, and a roof, and clothes for my family.

I felt like my value was in *not* being there, and instead being elsewhere (even when I was physically at home) ; hustling, breadwinning, and "getting stuff done".

I know better now. Thanks to the work I do at Monarch Trancework.

One of the most common wounds I support people in healing is the wound that happened because a person’s father just wasn’t there.

This year, my daughter invited me to dinner tonight. There are a lot of amazing things happening today. Opportunities to connect, and support people, and to make progress in areas I’ve been working hard at for a long time.

Instead, I’m going to show up for dinner. Because it’s Father’s Day.

And I’m a Father.